How will we think of Rihanna 5 years from now? Will we remember Chris Brown 5 years from now?
Chris Brown is finally in court to start facing punishment for what happened. But as we who follow Hollywood news knows, Rihanna has not made the choice a lot of people thought or hoped she would not. The two are back together (I was about to say back in jail). This does not surprise me whatsoever. Unfortunately, I've know many women, some beautiful, some not, who go back to abusive men who have 150 percent less good-looks and 100 percent less money and their not barely out of their teens. But I can also understand that Rihanna still loves the easy-going, playful, beautiful Brown who adored her and is completely confused and traumatized and unwilling to admit that things have changed.
No one wants to associate such attractiveness and charisma, Brown, with such ugly misdirected rage. No one wants to think of such beauty and glamour, Rihanna, experiencing and worst tolerating such treatment and I think that's why I'm so confused, conflicted and consumed by what's going to happen to them.
On ABC News and another blog two women posted comments that sums up my thoughts exactely:
My heart really goes out to Rihanna and Chris too. They are both so young, talented and beautiful. I am 38 years old. When I think of how much I have changed since I was their age, it really blows my mind. They have so much living, maturing and changing to do. I really wish the media and the judgmental public would back off and let them get the help and healing they need to get through this. It's not fair to expect such a young girl to lead the fight against domestic violence. Let her sort her life out without intruding. If Chris is willing to get the help he needs to change and improve who are we to say he shouldn't have that chance. They are just so young. I am glad the things I did at their age don't continue to define me today. If they did where would I be. Let's stop judging, step back and let this thing work itself out. Stay Strong Chris and Rihanna! You still have fans that love and support you, maybe not as a couple, but as individual shining stars.
Just maybe he's learned something from this incident. Just maybe he will seek counseling. Just maybe God will lay his hands on this young man and change him and his heart. Furthermore, Rihanna is 21 yrs. old and should not have the pressure of standing up for every battered woman in the world. That's too much responsibility for a young girl. Teach your own children right from wrong and let them simply be entertained by these young people not model their entire lives after them.
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I was a fan of Rihanna's beauty, not her music, and a occasional fan of Chris Brown and his music. So I did not want to admit that the Brown I saw in interviews, performing on Ellen, could do such a thing. But he has. And it appears he's been even manipulative, tipping off media about their reunion and whereabouts. The happy puppy pics of him jet skiing or whatever that little thing was, didn't help his case. I was so shocked when I saw those pics, his big wide grin that I had to laugh in pure amazement. I thought is this how we present ourselves when we're suppose to be "sadden" and seeing help? As one PR person said, it would have looked better if he was shot taking his mother to the Madea goes to Jail film. That shows him sticking with family and behavingsubdued. But clearly he either doesn't care enough even to feign remorse for long or he's confused on how to even perceive himself after doing something like that so he is trying to resort to the good-natured fun Chris in public not understanding that we don't want to see that right now.
Apparently Rihanna can tape their calls incase he threatens her etc. What kind of relationship is this? What they need to do is both seek counseling, real counseling, counseling that addresses his rage and her dependency issues. They can still talk but should stay away from each other for at least a couple months, then reunite and see if there is something worth saving.
I wish them the best of luck.
